Family #1: ALWAYS late. My dog bit the daughter after the daughter tried to run her over with a shopping cart. I would have bit her too. Rudy was a wiener dog!! It was her only protection. She didn't draw blood, but did leave a mark. The parents wanted me to lock up my dog. I tried and all she did was wine. HELLO, my dog was on Prozac and Valium for her anxiety already and now I have to lock her in a cage in the basement for 10 hours a day just because your 2 year old daughter wants to run her over with a play shopping cart while the sweet dog is lying in the sun??? Rudy was sharing her space for goodness sake!!! So, here is a disclaimer. I am fired up, therefore, I don't have to worry about proper grammar, spelling, or anything that is correct in the English language. I JUST GET TO WRITE!!!!!! Yay. That makes me feel better.
So, you ask, what happened to the family? I fired them. I called Animal Control and my daycare licensor and told them everything. I really don't hide anything, ever. The Animal Control guy told me " dogs are like people with their personalities. They have a hard time forgiving. If she bit this girl once, she will do it again. Get rid of the family". THAT is what I did. Rudy lived happily with the daycare kids for many happy, fat, sunning years.
The second family. I held onto them for 4 years until all the rule testing, policy changing, and contract pushing behavior finally broke me. When the dad walked through my door, my nerves bunched. My skin crawled, and I tensed up. The problem was, I liked this guy (a little). He really did (does) have good qualities. We just out grew our parenting relationship. It was time to move on. Believe me, there is more of a story here, but I don't want to write it at the moment.
The current situation. I am dealing with a mom. HELICOPTER mom. I found out on Sunday that basically she does not trust my supervision or my ability to watch and keep her daughter safe. OH MY GOSh! Why the heck does she leave her kid here??? She wants me to be able to see her every minute of the day even though our Rule #2 says we can be within sight or sound. I haven't broken ANY rules!!! This lady is a daycare licensor. She is a past provider. She of all people should understand how this business works. She should understand how we have to adapt to surroundings and structure our day to make everyone safe. She sees the bad programs out there. WHY is she choosing the last 2.5 weeks of my program to tell me she has not trusted my supervision this whole year? Why???
My dad once told me that when he and my mom were not getting along, they always seemed to get in a fight right before my dad would go rattlesnake hunting. It would leave him with an inability to have complete fun while he is gone. He was always left with the feeling of unrest. Just as my mom was left with that same feeling as he was out shooting the snakes. Did they make up when he returned? Maybe. It obviously wasn't enough though.
Is this mom doing the same thing? Honestly, I feel she is so miserable in her current job and situation. She wants to be home with her kids. She is struggling with the idea that someone else is taking care of her kids. Her whole mission for staying home was to be the stay at home mom. To be the one in charge. As soon as she entered the work force she gave up a certain amount of control. The main part was control of her kids. What she doesn't understand is I have been there. I get it. In my 16 years as a mom, I left the home for one school year to work at another school. It was horrible on us all. I reopened my home to continue daycare. During my time off though, I never accused in a passive aggressive way, the people who here taking care and loving my children.
She has broken something in me that I have been working on healing for the last 5 years. A part of my insecurity, a part of my heart, and a part of my vulnerability that was scared years ago when I worked for the dragon.
I try hard. I work 2 businesses (Is that the problem?). I love the kids in my program and trust myself they are safe and happy. I have 2 assistants to help. I cover my basis. I follow the rules. When someone tells me I am doing something wrong, IT HURTS!!!
So, I told John why I was so upset. I live in the same town. I live in the same community. I run with similar people. I do care what people think. I know I shouldn't, but I do. I can't help it. I work in customer service. I like to make people happy. I DON'T WANT HER GOING AROUND TOWN BAD MOUTHING ME AND THE BUSINESS I HAVE WORKED HARD FOR!!! She is this type of person who would.
Here is another thing. I am concerned. Strange markings. Strange marks on the body. Trying to blame things on me. WHAT is going on at home? This is something I question if I should report. Is this family safe at home? Oh my gosh, that is all I can say about that.
So basically, I feel this mom is setting me up. She wants me to watch her daughter like a hawk (I will). I have to or if she gets hurt in any way SHE will attack. John wants me to give them notice and have their last day be Friday. He has a good point of why considering he has seen SO many families come through this program. Her complaint is not an usual one and considering she can't back this "suspected" injuries up, he feels she is reaching for a reason to taint my perfect record of no parent complaints and sue us for all we have. She is obviously feeding her daughter lines of BS. Her daughter talks at my house.
Oh people. I need to go to bed. I did not get everything out that I wanted to. I will have to finish later. At least I got some of my feelings out. This lady is a bully. a bully. I can't believe in my adult life I am dealing with a bully. wow. Stay tuned. 12 school days left with this beautiful child and her confused and sad mother...